How to Choose Your Dream Wedding Dress 70 Things to Know(61~70)

If your wedding is in the Caribbean in August, go for lightweight fabrics in breezy styles. But if you're getting hitched in the winter in Boston, it's all about snow-like sparkle and heavier, lush fabrics like satin or taffeta.

Despite all the advice that's available about choosing the most appropriate silhouette, style, and fabric, you don't have to listen to us, your consultant, or your mother. If you want to wear a taffeta ball gown on the beach or a trendy pantsuit to City Hall, do it—it's your wedding.

You should love every aspect of your wedding dress, but keep in mind that the top of the gown will appear most in wedding photographs, especially while you're seated at dinner or dancing with your nearest and dearest. Make sure the gown fits comfortably when you're sitting down and that the neckline won't require adjusting throughout the day.

"It's fine for a good seamstress to do small updates like adding straps or changing the hemline," says gown designer Monique Lhuillier. "But any customization that requires the inner support and structure of the gown to be changed is risky, costly, and, many times, irreversible. If it's not done with precision, it can potentially ruin a gown."

If the dress arrives and you're iffy on it, you don't need to scrap it. Gather your trusted style advisers and "try it on with totally different accessories, like a new belt, or add a bolero," says Molly Guy, creative director at Stone Fox Bride. "If that doesn't help, a seamstress can really change the look by shortening it, changing the neckline, taking off sleeves, or adding sleeves."

Say you really can't fall back in love with the dress, but you can't afford to scrap it and start from scratch buying a second one. Re-sell it online, emphasizing that the dress is brand new and unworn. "That way you can recoup more than the average 50 percent resale and get back 60 to 80 percent of the retail price," says Julie Jones, founder of Encore Bridal, a gown resale website.

If the dress of your dreams has a long train or hem, decide whether you want to get a bustle sewn into the gown. This will help you pick up your train during the reception, but keep in mind that it will alter how the back of the dress looks. Research the different bustle styles to see if one is right for your dress before you undergo fittings and alterations.

Of course you don't want your partner to see your pick, but what about friends? Make a rule before you start sending pics of the gown of how widely you'll share it—just with the people at the appointment? Just with the bridal party? If you don't set the rule in advance, you could feel trapped later into showing everyone, and lose some of the magic of the reveal on the big day.

Especially if you live with your partner, you don't want him or her to stumble upon your gown and ruin the surprise. Ask a relative or very trusted friend (perhaps someone you'd want to bring with you when you take the gown for tailoring appointments) if they'll let you keep the dress at their place until the big day. Plus, if it's not in your closet, you won't be tempted to wear it every day until the wedding.

Now that you've found your dream gown, stop shopping—it will make you nuts if you keep looking at dresses. Yours is great! Now just look forward to showing everyone on the big day.